I find it strange to wish you a "happy" Memorial Day, today allows us to pause and remember those who sacrificed for us.

Damocles

Accedo!
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As the title suggests, Memorial Day feels different from other holidays. Calling it "happy" seems out of place when the day is about honoring those who gave their lives for our country. Instead, I see it as a time for quiet reflection, gratitude, and remembrance.

Today, I’m thinking about the countless men and women who made the ultimate sacrifice. Some of them were friends, coworkers, and in my line of work when I was in the Navy, sometimes they are quietly honored, it isn't something that is public. Their courage and selflessness allow us to enjoy the freedoms we often take for granted. Whether it’s visiting a memorial, attending a local ceremony, or simply sharing stories about loved ones who served, I believe these acts of remembrance keep their legacy alive.

For me, this day is personal. My grandfather served in WWII and, while he came home, he carried the weight of those who didn’t. His stories remind me that behind every name on a memorial is a life, a family, and a story of sacrifice. My grandfather spoke fluent German and Russian, and was used as a translator at the end of the war as we came upon the Concentration Camps that you often can see images of. While the US came upon the camps in Germany, and they were not the worst they were plenty bad enough... He did not often speak of these things, and certainly not to me as I was far too young to burden with such things, after he died I found some haunting images...

How are you all honoring Memorial Day? Are there traditions or moments of reflection you’d like to share? Let’s use this space to pay tribute to those who gave everything for us.

Regardless of whether you say "Happy Memorial Day" or, like me, you find that an uncomfortable sentiment on a day you remember those who gave their all in service, I hope that you all will take a moment, a pause between bites of a burger perhaps, to remember that it really is true that Freedom Isn't Free...
 
How are you all honoring Memorial Day? Are there traditions or moments of reflection you’d like to share? Let’s use this space to pay tribute to those who gave everything for us.
TBH, I find the day depressing. My dad served two tours in Vietnam and I knew friends of his and the fathers of friends who died in Vietnam. My stepfather died of ALS at age 63 after being drenched in Agent Orange as an artillery officer. In my own experience, over 30 friends have died in the service of our nation. Not just people I knew, but actual friends. All were peacetime flying accidents, both in CONUS and on deployment, but the loss of each friend was hard.

Saying"over 30 friends" is because that's when I stopped counting since keeping count was a dark cloud over my thoughts. Anyone who has attended at least one funeral or memorial service and trying to choke back tears while listening to the cries of wives and children should know what I mean.

The best way for me to honor them is to love my country and defend the same Constitution they died defending. The end of "Saving Private Ryan" put it very poignantly when Captain Miller tells Private Ryan to "earn this". I try to live the good life my friends and comrades in arms never had a chance to live and to count my blessings.

Old James Ryan: [Last lines, addressing Capt. Miller's grave] My family is with me today. They wanted to come with me. To be honest with you, I wasn't sure how I'd feel coming back here. Every day I think about what you said to me that day on the bridge. I tried to live my life the best that I could. I hope that was enough. I hope that, at least in your eyes, I've earned what all of you have done for me.

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People tend to forget that this is a somber day because, by golly, it may be the first long weekend in ages, and they’re ready to do something fun. My husband used to put up a flag in front of the house for the day, but we’re both disabled now (aging does that), so the flag is only there in spirit.
 
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