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I've seen it go both ways. If it ends up to be a love thing, it's worth kissing the job off for. Let's face it, people don't spend their lives at one job anymore. ON the other hand, if it's a good job and you'd be a lot better off keeping it for at least a couple of years, and if it's not love, then you're much better off walking away from the potentional relationship. The problem is how do you know if it's love?
So as you might guess, I have screwed up one or two jobs with romantic entanglments. But I did get engaged to one of them, and even almost made it down the aisle, so you can't really say I'm a slut. lol
Anyway, I can't give Rob any advice on this. I'm like George Costanza, if you do the exact opposite of what I think is a good idea in regards to sexual matters, you're going to come out ok.
Yeah, but Rob's going to be there for a while - the company is paying for his MBA and he has said on numerous occassions that we weren't meant to have one life partner. My guess is it would eventually end. And when it does.....BAM you're ex is at your job. I mean, one of the best things about breaking up with someone is that you don't have to see them again. Why gamble that away?
It never bothered me to have an ex at the job, in fact I am friends with almost all of my exes. If I liked them enough to be involved why not be friends after you are involved?
Ugh.....there are very few ex's I would mind seeing on a daily basis. As a matter of fact there are two and I talk them regularly but as for the other guys I've dated, I would LOATHE to have see them every day or have to work on something with them?????!!!!!!!! Ugh.......I shudder to think. No, its best to break it off and keep on moving.
It doesn't always work out that both want the breakup. In fact, it's pretty rare. You know, you seem to work in an interesting place, but I can assure you that most corporations frown on dating between co-workers, and have policies against management dating underlings. There are several reasons for that, and only one of them involve lawsuits.
Then it depends on how big his company is, and how often he would see this guy after the breakup. If it was even just a medium sized company, putting me in close proximity to the person post-breakup, and the company was paying for my MBA, I wouldn't do it. I don't know where he works. I've worked at companies that had 20 floors, and depending on who it was, you might never see them at work.
I'm not disagreeing that I wouldn't want some exes at my job. It depends on the breakup of course. It's a total crap shoot. But guess what Tiana? If they want each other, they're going to do it. lol. I mean, we can talk all we want, but that's how it goes down. Don't you think?
I think you summed it nicely.
Yeah that's true but a reputation will follow you - when it comes time to be promoted people will think more about how you showed your ass than how good you did on a project.
True. I always found it difficult to meet guys I would be interested in dating, outside of work though. I hate when guys hit on me in bars, and I find they are usually really big jerks, and almost always looking for sex, like right then. As if. I guess the thing about work is, you get comfortable with someone first. I defintely don't have the answers for the best places to meet people. But work is the most obvious place, and all that time together, attractions are going to develop, and people will mess up their jobs over them. I doubt it will ever stop, but you're certainly not wrong to feel that it's not the smart thing to do.
Well, it could possibly work out, but I think unless you're really going to take someone seriously its best to leave it alone. Actually I met my boyfriend at bar! LOL. And My best friend works with 2 of her ex's and her current boyfriend! But she's not in the same offices as them and she doesn't have to see them much at all unless she makes the effort.
robdastud
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actually i might have to eat those words about not being meant to have one life partner....
