Damo. You assign way too much to appearances and what you "feel" someone is saying.
The only thing I believe you abuse is your "daddiness". Very typical of a man who has young children. They tend to "teach, mentor, advise, lecture" as they do their own children. I work with several men who do likewise and basically get the same results you do.
Let me be clear. I do not for one second believe you care one iota about me being upset, happy, glad, or sad. What I feel about it is immaterial.
I will hang in there with the best of them. If you want to make this about fabricated fantasy, I will take the bait and play til I'm bored.