All of this is just my opinion:
I think that lack of respect comes from our coddling of the kids. We removed the ability of educators to have disciplinary control over the kids. When I was a kid... you did NOT want to go see the principal and his paddle collection. You especially did not want a second trip to his office because that guaranteed the use of the paddle with da holes in it. Obviously we don't want discipline taken to the extreme, but a couple of whacks with a paddle will generally get a kids attention. Also... note to education administrations.... suspension from school... not a good idea. Kids tend to like the idea of a day off. Make them in school suspensions.
We also began this insane strategy of teaching to the lowest common denominator and then wondering at the same time why so many kids were suddenly being diagnosed with A.D.D. We do not all learn in the same manner, nor do we learn at the same speed. It is ignorant to try to teach to them in the same manner.
Also... side rant... enough of the kids sports where 'everyone is a winner'. What possible lesson can kids take from that? Oh yeah.... no matter what I do or how hard I try...'I win'???????? Losses TEACH us valuable lessons.
I'd rep you here if I could. It won't let me. This is a great post and tells it just like I see it. When I was in school the kids who had college aspirations and the kids who didn't took different classes after a point. The government has made that "point" the last semester of their senior year because No Child Is To Be Left Behind. Hello.......not every kid is cut out to be a CEO or engineer or .... (name any career). Some kids are going to be Urban Refuse Engineers (trashmen we used to call them) or Maintenance Engineers (mechanics) and be just fine with it. Let them take courses that allow that pursuit instead of lumping all into one educational path in high school. O man, I could go on as this gets me fired up.
And discipline....I was visiting last night with my old high school principal at the school board meeting. There was one man I didn't want to get on the bad side of when I was in school. I had the greatest fear of....which grew into the greatest respect for that man. My how times have changed.
And the "everyone's a winner" thing. I played baseball in high school. We were pretty good. Our record my senior year was 38-8. Thirty-eight times someone experienced losing. No one committed suicide over that. Eight times we lost...and we're still kicking. Life lessons learned from being a part of a team......priceless as the commercial says. Every member of that baseball team has been successful in life. Only one went pro and now he owns a very successful window cleaning business in a large Texas city. SF, you really got me on my soap box here. I'll quit but man could I say a lot about this stuff.....looking at it from both the left side and the right side. I have issues with both.