I'm not arguing against the notion of rarity.
I'm just saying that given the insanely, incomprehensibly huge numbers we're talking about, even if a fraction of a percentage of planets in the universe supported life and a fraction of a percentage of those planets evolved intelligent life (close to, equal to or above us) we'd still be talking about millions of civilizations similar to ours across the universe. Tens of millions even. Or more.
I'm torn on the question of ability for intergalactic space travel, though. I used to be of the mind that the same physical limitations which keep us in our own yard, would act upon any other living beings and limit them in the same way. But OTOH, physicists talk about things like wormholes that are shortcuts between otherwise incredibly vast expanses of space.
So, maybe we have been and are being visited.
Maybe these other beings don't show themselves because they understand that we are still too primitive to handle the knowledge.
Maybe we're being cultivated and nurtured by some highly advanced gardeners who plant, grow and monitor the progress of new worlds on life hospitable planets, etc, etc.
Who knows.
It's fun to consider the possibilities and talk about, but a waste of time to seriously speculate about for us average, 'non-doctorial physicist' type folk.