Sun Devil
Death and Taxes
In twelve years since my mother's passing I've never spoken out about this, and I'm not sure why I bring it up here but it's something I think anyone who has ever had depression or knew someone with depression can relate. After turning 21 I was never really a heavy drinker until my father passed in 2010 and boy did I become a big time drinker. I remember before doing a PowerPoint presentation I drank an entire pitcher of beer, and seemingly was able to function by giving an A+ presentation. When I got into grad school I drank my way through the entire time, not even failing no assignment. As I look back, I realized that I allowed my personal issues with the dealings of losing two parents to overwhelm my judgment. Upon reflecting this, it's really hard to understand the contempt I have (and had) for life. I personally thought life was unfair, not because I personally thought I was special, but my mother who was such a good person (she had her flaws of course) suffered immensely until her death. With my father I never had a really good relationship, he too, was an alcoholic. Although he loved me, he was a good man but not the best father.
I remember when I visited him as a little kid, I spent my time playing arcade games while he shoot dice and play horses with the local gangs of the area. Off and on we met up, but never really solidified our relationship. I finally found out just 3 years ago he had cancer and I remember the night of his passing I was going out on a date and before I left, my dad asked for cough medicine. As he laid on his bed sick from cancer (he was in the final stages) upon asking him what's wrong he sat up and said "I don't know." Next morning I got a phone call that he had died. I've been dying ever day thinking "wow I have no parents" and so to cope, I drank alcohol. If anyone has seen the movie "Flight" with Denzel, I think I was just catching up to the amount of liquor he consumed. Although I drank to cope, I was really trying to end my life slowly. I think because of this I have no relationship (I'v been told by countless women at work and school that I'm attractive). I lift weights (well, used to) so I'm fairly built like a football player and yet no kids, educated, shitty job.
There have been times where I wanted to end my life. Like, I had one round in the chamber, but I cowardly declined I guess because the fear of making a "bloody mess" and staying alive only to live out my days as a vegetable. I guess I tell you this because my family really have no interest in listening to me and I'm too arrogant to get help (I guess the idea of an educated man seeking objective help is somehow not useful). This is another reason why I haven't been as active. So I guess I say all of this to say if anyone here have had a similar experience or has had to battle an uphill fight.
I remember when I visited him as a little kid, I spent my time playing arcade games while he shoot dice and play horses with the local gangs of the area. Off and on we met up, but never really solidified our relationship. I finally found out just 3 years ago he had cancer and I remember the night of his passing I was going out on a date and before I left, my dad asked for cough medicine. As he laid on his bed sick from cancer (he was in the final stages) upon asking him what's wrong he sat up and said "I don't know." Next morning I got a phone call that he had died. I've been dying ever day thinking "wow I have no parents" and so to cope, I drank alcohol. If anyone has seen the movie "Flight" with Denzel, I think I was just catching up to the amount of liquor he consumed. Although I drank to cope, I was really trying to end my life slowly. I think because of this I have no relationship (I'v been told by countless women at work and school that I'm attractive). I lift weights (well, used to) so I'm fairly built like a football player and yet no kids, educated, shitty job.
There have been times where I wanted to end my life. Like, I had one round in the chamber, but I cowardly declined I guess because the fear of making a "bloody mess" and staying alive only to live out my days as a vegetable. I guess I tell you this because my family really have no interest in listening to me and I'm too arrogant to get help (I guess the idea of an educated man seeking objective help is somehow not useful). This is another reason why I haven't been as active. So I guess I say all of this to say if anyone here have had a similar experience or has had to battle an uphill fight.