Does Everyone Have The Nerve To Shoot a Gun?

Oh. There's that macho man big guy attitude there! You're probably too scared to beat your own dick. Fuckwad.

Let me guess... your feelings got hurt? It is precisely what happened to my ex brother in law. You can choose to not put yourself at risk. For a friend/family member in that position I choose to take the risk. Especially if I feel their life is in danger.
 
I am not saying sit back and do nothing. Be there and tell her she has options. Many, many women endure abuse for years before they decide they have had enough. One of the worst things an abuser does is try to isolate his victim from family and friends. Don't allow that. Stay in her life and give her a choice and a safe place to run if she needs it. Most abusers won't fight a man anyway. they prefer their victims cowering.

Precisely what we've done.
 
So why aren't you doing anything there, macho man? I thought you were soooooo butch! Go confront him. Kidnap her. Shoot him! C'mon now big boy, show him your big muscles and two inch dick!

i promise you, if your friend ends up getting murdered, you aren't going to be as confident as you are now that you did everything you could to stop it from happening.
 
Funny thing is the cops actually paid attention when I told them that. Guess your'e wrong too, bud. Oh. Did I say we should ban guns because of the above? Nah...

just because you dont use the word ban doesn't mean that you aren't suggesting something to that affect. when you go "SEE HE BEAT HER WITH A GUN!" what else are you trying to suggest? Are you just randomly pointing this out for no reason?
 
or that while the scumbag is in jail, its an opportunity to at least start a legal action against him before he kills her....

That's the problem, shitforbrains. They won't put him in jail. The last time he went to jail she went to the judge and begged him not to release him. He did. She got a restraining order but how do you enforce a restraining order when you live in the same fucking house? Her parents are 80 plus years old and living in North Carolina. What do you expect them to do?
 
This is just one of those things where men are from mars and women are from venus. I can't imagine a guy just having someone beat the shit out of him, throwing plates at them, getting pummeled and being like "Derrrrr i think I will keep staying, it's not that bad"

I literally can't compute it in my head.

I mean, ok, power dynamics of relationships with women and men might make women more afraid of their partner, but that doesn't explain the cognitive dissonance of actually believing everything will be fine, or that the abuse was a "one time thing" or that it was actually your fault. I also think I would have a hard time believing if the numbers would be the same for gay couples. Maybe I am wrong though.

Secondly, fight or flight is pretty much evolutionarily coded into our brains. If it gets to the point where you are derping around and getting the shit beat out of you repeatedly and you still have to wait for the "right time" to leave "when you're ready", then you have something seriously fucked up in your head and you are no longer capable of making rational decisions. Letting someone that isn't able to fully tap into their survival instincts try to come to a rational decision on "eventually" leaving their abuser seems like a recipe for disaster.

I have seen it happen twice now. They somehow justify it by the fact that they love the guy and that because he is nice 95% of the time, it must be something they are doing wrong. Because the guy loves them and all. I don't get it either, but I have seen it happen to two intelligent women. I don't understand the psychological portion of it, but it so unbelievably real. Not sure how it happens either, but it is permanent... or at least that is my impression based on how my sister reacted to the same situation happening with her daughter. My sister has fallen back into the 'he really loves her and is nice most of the time, he won't do it again' line of crap.

My sister was a nurse for 15 years... she saw this shit at work... she could see what the other women should have done, but still couldn't see it in her own relationship (nor can she see it in her daughters).
 
I also think some women may hide this from men in their lives. I can't imagine i would tell my brothers. I don't want them to end up in prison. I can see trying to hide it out of fear of the subsequent confrontation/action. I've never been a DV victim, but I can definitely relate to hiding that from your brother. There are things women never tell men. It's just how it is.


That's the problem. The majority of abused women never get help. Never.
 
That's the problem, shitforbrains. They won't put him in jail. The last time he went to jail she went to the judge and begged him not to release him. He did. She got a restraining order but how do you enforce a restraining order when you live in the same fucking house? Her parents are 80 plus years old and living in North Carolina. What do you expect them to do?
do YOU have room for her?
 
That's the problem, shitforbrains. They won't put him in jail. The last time he went to jail she went to the judge and begged him not to release him. He did. She got a restraining order but how do you enforce a restraining order when you live in the same fucking house? Her parents are 80 plus years old and living in North Carolina. What do you expect them to do?

I dont know how it works on a state by state basis but I used to handle restraining orders all the time. We would issue temporary restraining orders that would typically last about a week, and in that time the (typically guy) would be forced to leave his house. tough shit on him.
 
LMAO... where the hell do you see me condoning kidnapping her? Let me guess, this is more of your 'honest' discussion technique?

Stupid fuck. Right here in your very next post.

exactly... Kidnapping her is not the best option, but it is a better option than leaving her in a situation where I fear she will be killed. The other option is ensuring the guy doesn't touch her again. If I go to jail for that, so be it. Still better than her being dead.
 
Funny shit there troll. Another tough guy who'd probably run quicker than SF. Hell, neither one of you are man enough to even keep a woman.

Funny that you think men should 'keep' them. Also funny that you mock my being single (a lifestyle I enjoy and prefer) yet you wish for people to be tolerant and respectful of your relationship. Think about that.

You seem so outraged... is it because I told you what I have done and would do again and it makes you realize that you HAVEN'T done all you can to protect your friend? Is that why you are lashing out with your nonsense?
 
howey if you aren't going to drag her out of her house I suggest

1) talking to her everyday convincing her to leave. Make her hear it as often as possible.
2) Get others to do the same. She needs to know there are a lot of people out there telling her she needs to break free
3) I would give her a key to your place. Just be like "if at anytime for any reason you need to get away, come to my place at any hour you dont even have to knock"
 
Aw...c'mon on there macho man Rambo. Track him down! Hunt him. Punish him!

dont mock those that would go the extra mile for those in danger. when the dust settles, I promise you the abused would rather be saved than in the ground. If it's actually a life or death situation, you either step up or sit down.
 
You seem so outraged... is it because I told you what I have done and would do again and it makes you realize that you HAVEN'T done all you can to protect your friend? Is that why you are lashing out with your nonsense?

I'm outraged at your utter and complete ignorance of life.
 
LMAO... where the hell do you see me condoning kidnapping her? Let me guess, this is more of your 'honest' discussion technique?


Right here:


4) You are a coward. If you know she is being abused, you know she is scared to leave him and you are her friend... get her the fuck out of there. Don't stand by and do nothing.


Everyone stand by because here comes the part where SF tries to backtrack from his very clear instructions.
 
Hogwash, the poll consisted of only 1,711 registered voters from Pennsylvania, New York, New Jersey, Connecticut, Florida, Ohio, and Virginia. This hardly captures the majority of Americans.

lol...and then we have this ignoramus who's more concerned about a stupid fucking poll....
 
So why aren't you doing anything there, macho man? I thought you were soooooo butch! Go confront him. Kidnap her. Shoot him! C'mon now big boy, show him your big muscles and two inch dick!


Oh heavens no...your situation is ENTIRELY different from his...he can't do anything as EXTREME as shooting the guy abusing his niece.
 
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