Same here, usc and IHG. I currently live in the middle of the bible belt. Perhaps it seems more extreme to me because I'm from elsewhere; perhaps it is more extreme because of its geographic isolation. Religion here is very important to those who hold to it, and is pretty much the basis of their lives and their identities. To openly criticize someone here (and, really, elsewhere) for her/his beliefs would essentially constitute a personal attack because of the importance of religion to so many people's daily lives. I used to visit with my 86-year-old neighbor (well, half a mile away) who always had her bible open, and who, I knew, was edging closer toward quizzing me on what I'm sure she suspected, accurately, as my lack of religion. I did all I could to avoid that because I liked her so much and didn't want to insult her; at the same time I'd never have dreamed of lying to her. My sadness at her death was slightly eased by a relief that we'd never have to get into that discussion.
I do get tired of people assuming that everyone thinks just as they do. The first question you're asked here by new acquaintances is "where do you worship?" Or the standard praise of someone who's a nice person, "well, he's a good Christian", or self-congratulatory, "Well I'm a Christian". OK, fine, but I'm not and I don't want to make an issue of it. I declined to take part in a photography exhibit that supposedly celebrated the "spirit", and was essentially booted out of the club for it. Fine, that suits me under the circumstances. People here actually demolished a publicly funded highway overpass decoration, that depicted a version of an ancient "wind god" (very a propos for here!), because they felt it was "pagan"! I can't imagine such a response up north.
I guess what I'm saying is that extremism in any form is unpalatable at the least, divisive and even dangerous at most. What I'd like is to receive the respect for my lack of belief in the same measure that I respect those who do believe. Nothing more, nothing less.
Wow, great post.