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Darla
How old do you have to be before your friends stop calling you to tell you they slept with some guy and he didn't call does anyone know? It used to be they called to say they slept with some guy they just met and he didn't call, now I have noticed it's changed a bit. It always has something to do with facebook or classmates.com. Oh do you remember so and so from high school? Well he fb'd me and we met and we had sex and i haven't heard from him what do you think?

I think he's not going to call you dumbass, what do you think?

I have been answering this question for 20 years now, and it's the same friends.
 
Darla said:
How old do you have to be before your friends stop calling you to tell you they slept with some guy and he didn't call does anyone know? It used to be they called to say they slept with some guy they just met and he didn't call, now I have noticed it's changed a bit. It always has something to do with facebook or classmates.com. Oh do you remember so and so from high school? Well he fb'd me and we met and we had sex and i haven't heard from him what do you think?

I think he's not going to call you dumbass, what do you think?

I have been answering this question for 20 years now, and it's the same friends.
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Tell those friends you have become a born again Christian. When they call with this sort of thing, offer to pray for them. I bet they stop calling you pretty quick.
 
Darla said:
How old do you have to be before your friends stop calling you to tell you they slept with some guy and he didn't call does anyone know? It used to be they called to say they slept with some guy they just met and he didn't call, now I have noticed it's changed a bit. It always has something to do with facebook or classmates.com. Oh do you remember so and so from high school? Well he fb'd me and we met and we had sex and i haven't heard from him what do you think?

I think he's not going to call you dumbass, what do you think?

I have been answering this question for 20 years now, and it's the same friends.
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Sounds like a friend of mine, they never learn. He probably thought time had changed her, they hooked up and then he realized, yikes, still needy! Or he remembered she was an easy hook up and she again, proved that indeed she was a willing partner. No shame in that, just realize it may not work out the way you imagine!
 
Rana said:
Sounds like a friend of mine, they never learn. He probably thought time had changed her, they hooked up and then he realized, yikes, still needy! Or he remembered she was an easy hook up and she again, proved that indeed she was a willing partner. No shame in that, just realize it may not work out the way you imagine!
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Sometimes I just feel like yelling you know? But then I feel bad. I guess if you are emotionally handicapped and self-destructive you can't help it. I am so freaking tired of hearing about it though. We are talking in this most recent case about a professional classy woman. And this fucking idiot picks her up and takes her to a strip club and she goes. They haven't seen each other since high school. And he had made reservations at a rather infamous hotel on LI. SHe actually said to me "Well what would you have done?" She doesn't even have to ask that. I just said, oh well what can you do, if a guy makes hotel reservations you have to go. It's a rule.

I would have told that guy to pull over the car the second he mentioned a strip club. And if you want a one night stand, fine, that's fine. Enjoy it! But fooling yourself into thinking a sleazebag like that has nothing other than a one night stand in mind, and that you made some sort of "connection", is just utter stupidity and delusion. And calling me about it 25 times is just not okay, because I don't have anything left to say. I said it all years ago.
 
Darla said:
Sometimes I just feel like yelling you know? But then I feel bad. I guess if you are emotionally handicapped and self-destructive you can't help it. I am so freaking tired of hearing about it though. We are talking in this most recent case about a professional classy woman. And this fucking idiot picks her up and takes her to a strip club and she goes. They haven't seen each other since high school. And he had made reservations at a rather infamous hotel on LI. SHe actually said to me "Well what would you have done?" She doesn't even have to ask that. I just said, oh well what can you do, if a guy makes hotel reservations you have to go. It's a rule.

I would have told that guy to pull over the car the second he mentioned a strip club. And if you want a one night stand, fine, that's fine. Enjoy it! But fooling yourself into thinking a sleazebag like that has nothing other than a one night stand in mind, and that you made some sort of "connection", is just utter stupidity and delusion. And calling me about it 25 times is just not okay, because I don't have anything left to say. I said it all years ago.
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Amen! You know what I do with my crazy friends ;)
 
Darla said:
Sometimes I just feel like yelling you know? But then I feel bad. I guess if you are emotionally handicapped and self-destructive you can't help it. I am so freaking tired of hearing about it though. We are talking in this most recent case about a professional classy woman. And this fucking idiot picks her up and takes her to a strip club and she goes. They haven't seen each other since high school. And he had made reservations at a rather infamous hotel on LI. SHe actually said to me "Well what would you have done?" She doesn't even have to ask that. I just said, oh well what can you do, if a guy makes hotel reservations you have to go. It's a rule.

I would have told that guy to pull over the car the second he mentioned a strip club. And if you want a one night stand, fine, that's fine. Enjoy it! But fooling yourself into thinking a sleazebag like that has nothing other than a one night stand in mind, and that you made some sort of "connection", is just utter stupidity and delusion. And calling me about it 25 times is just not okay, because I don't have anything left to say. I said it all years ago.
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You must be the friend who always listens and counsels your friends. LOL I know that role quite well. My advice to you is to get very blunt with your assessment, since it didn't seem to sink in the first 25 times you gave it. Something along the lines of, 'Come on, [friend's name] - do you enjoy being perceived as a brainless skank? How many more times do you intend to humiliate yourself? Please find a new way to do so because I'm bored of this movie. I've seen it 25 times.' And tell her you mean well. :D
 
Bijou said:
You must be the friend who always listens and counsels your friends. LOL I know that role quite well. My advice to you is to get very blunt with your assessment, since it didn't seem to sink in the first 25 times you gave it. Something along the lines of, 'Come on, [friend's name] - do you enjoy being perceived as a brainless skank? How many more times do you intend to humiliate yourself? Please find a new way to do so because I'm bored of this movie. I've seen it 25 times.' And tell her you mean well. :D
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LOL yeah that would be awesome.
 
Darla said:
How old do you have to be before your friends stop calling you to tell you they slept with some guy and he didn't call does anyone know? It used to be they called to say they slept with some guy they just met and he didn't call, now I have noticed it's changed a bit. It always has something to do with facebook or classmates.com. Oh do you remember so and so from high school? Well he fb'd me and we met and we had sex and i haven't heard from him what do you think?

I think he's not going to call you dumbass, what do you think?

I have been answering this question for 20 years now, and it's the same friends.
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It must be a girlfriend thing. No buddy of mine has ever called me up, FB'd, Twittered or shouted across the parking lot that he's slept with anyone. Now back when I was single if I had a one night stand with a girl and didn't call her back it was because I really didn't find her attractive but had beer goggles on or because she was lousy in the sack or the chemistry just wasn't there. I can remember dating a very attractive girl in college and she was pretty and she was good in bed but I kept breaking up with her cause intellectually we were in different universes. To this day I never have figured out how she got admitted into college but to make a long story short, she flunked out on a Librarian Science major. Not exactly the most demanding major there is. The sad thing was she really tried. It wasn't like she was a party girl.....just not to bright. Which would explain though why she went out with me in the first place. :)
 
Darla said:
Sometimes I just feel like yelling you know? But then I feel bad. I guess if you are emotionally handicapped and self-destructive you can't help it. I am so freaking tired of hearing about it though. We are talking in this most recent case about a professional classy woman. And this fucking idiot picks her up and takes her to a strip club and she goes. They haven't seen each other since high school. And he had made reservations at a rather infamous hotel on LI. SHe actually said to me "Well what would you have done?" She doesn't even have to ask that. I just said, oh well what can you do, if a guy makes hotel reservations you have to go. It's a rule.

I would have told that guy to pull over the car the second he mentioned a strip club. And if you want a one night stand, fine, that's fine. Enjoy it! But fooling yourself into thinking a sleazebag like that has nothing other than a one night stand in mind, and that you made some sort of "connection", is just utter stupidity and delusion. And calling me about it 25 times is just not okay, because I don't have anything left to say. I said it all years ago.
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:lol: That reminds me of an EX I ran into a month or so after we split. I asked her how she was doing and she said she just met a wonderful man.

"On the first date he took me to an exclusive club for drinks and dancing. There was even an admission charge which he happily paid for. He knows how to treat a lady", she boasted.

"Wow! That was nice of him. Where did he take you", I inquired.

When she told me the name I recognized it as a swinger's club. :rofl2: (I knew of the place as it was in the newspaper a week or two prior as the residents in that neighborhood were trying to get it closed down.) On the first date he was trying to switch her for someone else. :rofl2: (I bit the inside of my cheeks so I wouldn't laugh.)

As for not calling a gal after a one night stand she would have had to be really, really whacked out. I mean, what guy throws away a sure thing? I always remember my Momma saying, "Waste not, want not."
 
Darla said:
Sometimes I just feel like yelling you know? But then I feel bad. I guess if you are emotionally handicapped and self-destructive you can't help it. I am so freaking tired of hearing about it though. We are talking in this most recent case about a professional classy woman. And this fucking idiot picks her up and takes her to a strip club and she goes. They haven't seen each other since high school. And he had made reservations at a rather infamous hotel on LI. SHe actually said to me "Well what would you have done?" She doesn't even have to ask that. I just said, oh well what can you do, if a guy makes hotel reservations you have to go. It's a rule.

I would have told that guy to pull over the car the second he mentioned a strip club. And if you want a one night stand, fine, that's fine. Enjoy it! But fooling yourself into thinking a sleazebag like that has nothing other than a one night stand in mind, and that you made some sort of "connection", is just utter stupidity and delusion. And calling me about it 25 times is just not okay, because I don't have anything left to say. I said it all years ago.
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She sounds needy. If she's professional and classy she should have guys breaking down the door to be with her. Maybe she's sending out the wrong vibe.
 
Darla said:
How old do you have to be before your friends stop calling you to tell you they slept with some guy and he didn't call does anyone know? It used to be they called to say they slept with some guy they just met and he didn't call, now I have noticed it's changed a bit. It always has something to do with facebook or classmates.com. Oh do you remember so and so from high school? Well he fb'd me and we met and we had sex and i haven't heard from him what do you think?

I think he's not going to call you dumbass, what do you think?

I have been answering this question for 20 years now, and it's the same friends.
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Sleep with everyone you meet and enough people will call you to make the question unnecessary. My number is (deleted by moderator)
 
Derp Derp said:
It must be a girlfriend thing. No buddy of mine has ever called me up, FB'd, Twittered or shouted across the parking lot that he's slept with anyone. Now back when I was single if I had a one night stand with a girl and didn't call her back it was because I really didn't find her attractive but had beer goggles on or because she was lousy in the sack or the chemistry just wasn't there. I can remember dating a very attractive girl in college and she was pretty and she was good in bed but I kept breaking up with her cause intellectually we were in different universes. To this day I never have figured out how she got admitted into college but to make a long story short, she flunked out on a Librarian Science major. Not exactly the most demanding major there is. The sad thing was she really tried. It wasn't like she was a party girl.....just not to bright. Which would explain though why she went out with me in the first place. :)
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When I was that age we didn't have phones!
 
Derp Derp said:
It must be a girlfriend thing. No buddy of mine has ever called me up, FB'd, Twittered or shouted across the parking lot that he's slept with anyone. Now back when I was single if I had a one night stand with a girl and didn't call her back it was because I really didn't find her attractive but had beer goggles on or because she was lousy in the sack or the chemistry just wasn't there. I can remember dating a very attractive girl in college and she was pretty and she was good in bed but I kept breaking up with her cause intellectually we were in different universes. To this day I never have figured out how she got admitted into college but to make a long story short, she flunked out on a Librarian Science major. Not exactly the most demanding major there is. The sad thing was she really tried. It wasn't like she was a party girl.....just not to bright. Which would explain though why she went out with me in the first place. :)
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Yeah who knows. I have no idea. I don't do one night stands and I've never had any desire to. to me it's all about a connection, so I don't know why people do hit and runs, but there's no doubt that some get off on it. To each their own. As long as they don't call me afterwards it's all good.
 
Darla said:
LOL This is actually very funny Low. I like it! Your phone will never go silent!
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Nope. I keep it permanently on silent!!! A nice quiet vibration is sometimes.... not going ANY further with that one....
 
how old do you have to be before you stop hearing girls getting catty about their other friends and hear them talk about each other behind their backs? O_o
 
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