Putting flame to wick, and knowing what "lavender" smells like... that's far more ghey than repeating my sister's laughter filled conjecture about your gheyness...I have never heard about candle parties or party light so I think you're still a notch up higher on the gay scale damo. and you can't blame your sister. If you bump into such knowledge then it's a part of your psyche.
p.s. tomorrow I may go to the yankee candle shop and get a lavender one fyi
I got no ideas what a "lavender" candle even looks like, let alone want one. Although I do make beeswax candles from our bees... I sell them to ghey people and chicks.