Why would I feel better about the dead? I am simply pointing out that the soldiers' actions are either murder or not. I point out that the social contract allows for their actions. You too pointed that out.
I have repeatedly stated on here that the intent makes the difference and the leaders would be the ones you would take after. However, saying "We bombed them and that is murder!" is rubbish. "We" includes those soldiers, if you think they are murderers then try them. If not, then change the rhetoric.
And so, the act of bombing can never be murder, because if you call it murder then the troops are murderers.
I'd say it was a clever arguement, but it really isn't. It's dishonest and outright silly.
When the United states bombed Iraq, on a lie and a pretense, it was an act of mass-murder. Most directly responsible, and therefore, legally responsible, are Bush, Cheney, Rumsfeld, and about 2 or 3 dozen other highly ranked, or formerly highly ranking officials. They can and should be tried and executed for war crimes.
Those whom are responsible but morally, not legally, include the soldiers who carried out the orders, and, in a far greater number, the true moral culprits who enabled the perpetruaters, enumerated in the first paragraph; the american taxpayer.
We all have blood on our hands. Whether or not we, you, me, the soldiers, are technically "murderers" is a high-minded philosophical debate the outcome of which changes nothing.
But I will tell you this...there is not a hero among us.