Of course you can do all of that. It might even work . . . for a day or two. At most.
Look, the single most fundamental and unchanging facet of human interaction is that we bug the shit out of each other. We are incredibly diverse, far more so than any other species of ape. And this is a good thing, too: it's a survival trait. Behavioral diversity is like genetic diversity, only better. It's better because social evolution works much faster than biological evolution does. The price of this adaptation, however, is that we never, ever agree entirely on anything.
Human beings living in social groups experience friction and the larger the group, the greater the friction. This is absolute and you will never change it. Any attempt to ignore it is doomed to utter failure: witness strict Marxist Socialism, for example.
There will always be dissenters. Always. And gods bless 'em, too. There will also always be criminals and "socially unacceptable deviants" of various kinds.
You will never get any sizable group of humans to "voluntarily" abide strictly by any code of behavior. Any social system predicated on purely voluntary compliance is futile and a complete waste of time.
I have no clue how you can state so many things correctly and then come to the conclusion that me must have a highly centralized monopoly power to force everyone into one set mold and punish dissenters.
Statists are not much different than advocates of ID. To IDers complex life cannot come about without a designer. To statists a civil society can not come about without a designer. Statists merely replace God with the state.
There are obvious differences. Statist will argue that in democracies laws develop from society debating issues and voting on these matters. They are not delivered top down onto the people. This is often true. Any state that attempts the reverse is usually confronted with total failure. But this is not a very good argument for the state and since complete democracies (i.e., all vote on the laws) are unfeasible we attempt create "representative" democracies. Once the central state grows to Godly proportions taking over control of more and more decisions the representative democracy starts to become unfeasible and we turn to bureaucracy, which is not very representative at all.
The fact, is that most of the "social structures" embedded in the state's laws developed spontaneously. The state merely monopolized enforcement and became determined to aggressivley punish dissenters, lest there monopoly be endangered.
But dissenters often bring about necessary and healthy change.
If the best laws come from a bottom up approach why do we need a monopoly state at all? Intellignet design is not only not necessary, it simply will not work as it is not adaptable. Spontaneous order is much more efficient.