People who used to be in your life

Over the years I have made a few attempts to reach out to people who were important in my life who I found by way of the internet....I cant claim that this ever turned out well....I stopped doing this many years ago.
 
Hawkeye10 said:
Over the years I have made a few attempts to reach out to people who were important in my life who I found by way of the internet....I cant claim that this ever turned out well....I stopped doing this many years ago.
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I never person to person with people on the internets
 
Hawkeye10 said:
A friend or lover that you have not seen or heard from in 20 years and you know nothing of their current life.....are you happy to hear from them?

I watched Broken Flowers yesterday, and am thinking of old friends that I have not been in contact with for 20-30 years.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Broken_Flowers
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I would love to hear from my best friend from my high school college days. We did some shit together. And this one girl I used to date. I still remember her perfume.
 
Hawkeye10 said:
A friend or lover that you have not seen or heard from in 20 years and you know nothing of their current life.....are you happy to hear from them?

I watched Broken Flowers yesterday, and am thinking of old friends that I have not been in contact with for 20-30 years.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Broken_Flowers
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They would be strangers. So, while it would be interesting to hear from them, I wouldn't call it "happy". Like the movie, there are few areas where I'd like to go back and apologize or at least admit I was in error, an ass, selfish, etc. but in the end it doesn't matter. What was was and what is is.

Sometimes I do wonder how we would know if what happened was for the best?

There's the oft-told story of the bomber crew member who was sick and couldn't go on a mission so a replacement went and everyone dies. "That could have been me" is the common phrase. I disagree and think that maybe it wouldn't have happened if they did go or that the plane crashes, but most or all survive. The dynamics change moment to moment like the Butterfly Effect. Who knows the impact of each moment?

Best, IMO, is just to do one's best, hope for the best but plan for the worst. One of my favorite Zen stories, there are longer versions: https://thedailyzen.org/2015/03/20/zen-story-maybe/
 
Dutch Uncle said:
They would be strangers. So, while it would be interesting to hear from them, I wouldn't call it "happy". Like the movie, there are few areas where I'd like to go back and apologize or at least admit I was in error, an ass, selfish, etc. but in the end it doesn't matter. What was was and what is is.

Sometimes I do wonder how we would know if what happened was for the best?

There's the oft-told story of the bomber crew member who was sick and couldn't go on a mission so a replacement went and everyone dies. "That could have been me" is the common phrase. I disagree and think that maybe it wouldn't have happened if they did go or that the plane crashes, but most or all survive. The dynamics change moment to moment like the Butterfly Effect. Who knows the impact of each moment?

Best, IMO, is just to do one's best, hope for the best but plan for the worst. One of my favorite Zen stories, there are longer versions: https://thedailyzen.org/2015/03/20/zen-story-maybe/
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Thank You for this quality contribution.
 
Hawkeye10 said:
Is there some reason I should know about why I dont get a full answer out you?
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You linked to a wiki about that movie.

"The film focuses on an aging "Don Juan" who embarks on a cross-country journey to track down four of his former lovers after receiving an anonymous letter stating that he has a son."

Wouldn't you want to know if you had a son?
 
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