Let's say you're taking your nephew to the store.... He wants Something to celebrate his acceptance to the national honor society.... Your neices are there in the house as well and they just made super honor roll... So you say to him.... you know , if I take you , i'm going to have to take your sisters or they're going to be mad.... Even if i'm not their favorite uncle..... But you know what? Everybody goes to the store.... And everybody wins.... And no one Is offended .... And the girls don't turn down the opportunity to go get stuff and celebrate their accomplishments.... Even though they don't really like you....