Smart is very sexy. Communicative, especially about deep and/or sensitive subjects, because I am very emotional and can’t get onto the next thing until I feel heard and understood. Funny is imperative and can get most women naked way faster than tequila. My personal preference is a dry, sardonic, even sometimes, black humor, but humor preferences differ.
Once you come out of the virtual world, and bring looks into it, who knows who I would consider “hot”, but I would be very surprised if it didn’t pretty much fall along the lines of who I think is hot already. Looks really mean very little to me, and I know everyone says that, but it’s really true for me. Some of the best looking men I’ve known, I have found to be huge turnoffs, and vs versa. It’s really all about chemistry, and if all of the above is there, you’re three quarters of the way to that.