I’m not just talking about race and gender… we are diverse complex and wildly different from each other.
I think of it like a computer in a limited analogy.
We are all born with an operating system, but not exactly the same operating system. Some people are DOS and some are IOS… With humans there is a huge variety of options of operating systems, in fact I’m sure now two are exactly alike but many are very similar.
From before we are born the software begins to be programmed.. sounds from outside our mothers womb, temperatures, whatever environmental events. The programming accelerates after birth and continues our entire lives.
So there is really no set way to be. There is really no specific human trait. Many of us are born into very similar environments and operate in similar ways, but don’t confuse groups of similar people with an idea that it’s “how people are” or “how people are supposed to be”.
These operating systems evolved over eons, and the programming changes drastically over short timeframe. For example, imagine your grandparents operating in todays world… imagine their ideology (if they stopped learning and adapting) allowing them to be successful in modern society.
My point is this…. All this argument about men shouldn’t wear dresses and women should follow in a marriage, or marriage is only between a man and a woman are silly because what is is to be human is very flexible and transient.
You clearly don't know how computer operating systems work.
At their base, there's a BIOS or kernel. That is a fixed set of instructions that get the computer up and running. These can be used with many different operating systems.
The operating system is just a program laid on top of the BIOS, much like any other program. It's purpose is to manage the other programs, file system, etc., of the computer.
Then there's the hardware side of things. This is mostly fixed at the time the computer system is designed and assembled. While some modifications and additions are possible, these are definitely limited by the rest of the system's configuration. You can't just stuff any new memory card, video card, or whatever you want into any computer and expect it to work or work well. There are definite limits on all of that.
Then there's the top level programs. These are the ones you interface with the computer by. They vary the most and can be changed almost at will. Even then, they still have to be compatible with the operating system, just as the operating system has to be compatible with the BIOS.
The basic nature of how these things work hasn't significantly changed since the introduction of all-electronic, digital computers. Sure, compared to older electro-mechanical devices, and electronic analog computers, there are significant differences, but those older designs are all really much like dinosaurs and extinct today. There are other specialized systems like industrial computers using things like ladder logic or PID controllers but they are more like comparing elephants to people.
So, in an analogy to humans, there is a fixed base system that makes someone a human being. The operating systems available are few in number and only a select few of those are in widespread use. In fact, there are only really two really universal ones in use today: MS DOS / Windows / Edge which are variants and upgrades of the same operating system, and UNIX / LINIX a more stable and workable system for larger computers. There are some others, but they are rarities and specialized in use.
What varies is the top level programs. Humans like computers can be loaded with a variety of programming. This can change over time. Lots of changes in these programs, loading in ones that are marginally useful, lead to the system slowing down and being cluttered with garbage programs that no longer are valuable. In the analogy Jarod is trying to make, this would be nonsensical and made up sexual idiocies that are being crammed down people's throats as supposedly useful new programs when the result is they just clog up the system with garbage that runs nonsense.