I admit that it's healthier to abstain, even though it's something I enjoy indulging in my own life. Certainly, if you had had a control problem, it would be highly commendable that you made the decision to quit (something I encourage anyone who is an addict). I am sorry about your ex's damned coworker.
I never had a control problem. I never allowed it to become a priority. When I shot hi-power rifle competitions, I wouldn't even drink coffee, much less any alcohol 3 days before I competed.
Like I said, I just grew tired of it, it was an easy decision. I still shoot pool in bars and fire companies twice every week, but have no inclination to have a drink. And although once in a great while
I've missed the taste of a good beer, I still haven't had one.