DamnYankee
Loyal to the end
Because you use the word, "queer" most of the Gay Men you've met have not likely shared with you that they are gay.
I don't use the word "queer" unless I know the people whom I am speaking with.
But you do have a point. Gays who just behave like normal people in public, unless you knew them personally you wouldn't know if they are queer or not. Wouldn't it be nice if more people didn't feel the need to telegraph their sexual deviance with the rest of the world?