It's just not Everyday you see someone denigrating religion, when in fact their life has benefited and been enriched by ancient religious tradition, in this case Daoism.
At least in western civilization, the reason religion gets so readily conflated with violence and war is largely because of the wars of religion in the 17th century, and the crusades and inquisition, of the late Middle Ages.
That was 500 years ago or more.
Lenin, Mao, Stalin, and Hitler were responsible for the most mass death in the modern era.
Today, as a general rule, nobody is going to war for Catholicism, nobody is dying for Protestantism. Ukrainians are dying for Ukranian nationalism, not for the Ukranian Orthodox Church. People in northern Ireland were willing to die, first and foremost, for Irish or British nationalism. Wars since the 17th century have been fought largely because of nationalism, colonialism, imperialism, land, and resources.
I would say one of the few examples in the west where religious motivation played a significant role was the wars of ethnic cleansing in the Balkans.
But even taking that Into account, the amount of mass death and destruction caused directly by religion in the last 500 years is minor, compared to the other economic, political, and ideological motivations I alluded to.
It's clear to me that religion has helped shape you, and in a positive way. We can agree to disagree around the edges, but I have no doubt you are sincere in your faith. The problem, of course is the people like PMP have co-opted your religion for their own purposes. It is almost never the basic philosophic tenants of religion that cause problems, it's the dogma. They think they know God's rules, and they refuse to accept the beliefs of others.