Do you think only women get that Desh, or is it gender-neutral and comes with age?
I think its a pretty even haul.
Cohabitation requires give and take.
Women are better at give and men are taught to take.
Men dont see it this way because they are ......well ......taught to take.
Men who find themselves in a realtionship where their woman is no longer giving and doing most of the taking usually got there through their little head.
They find what they think is perfect woman and she plays them over time until shes doing all the taking.
Women are taught to do the giving, or at least my generation was. I came to terms with the fact that I like to give many years ago. I finally said "fuck what any part of society wants me to be like Im going to be myself". I was told to be submissive by the society at large and told to be a taker from the emerging feminists movement ( they were kinda comical at the time as they formed what feminism was going to be, they made silly fits and starts). I desided I would be who I was and take what the people who told me to be this or that as a grain of salt.
I like to give to the people arround me. I like to do little things for the people I love. It brings me joy, they kinda like it too. I was not going to let anyone tell me I should not do what gave my life meaning. Im from a family of eight and am the one everyone comes to when they need a little love and care. I could see that as unfeminist or I can say this is a great power that women bring to their society and use my talents to their best level. I choice to see it as a power.
Someday men will grow out of this "take" mode and get back to the modes that best served them in their design. They were designed to hunt and protect. In a modern world it confuses them as to how to use these skills. Women have it kinda easy in a way. Our talents designed by millions of years of gathering , interaction and nesting translate much easier in the modern world. Go get a job with your human interaction skills and fix whats arround you with your nesting skills and gather that pay check.
Men have to figure out how to hunt and protect in a world that increasingly asks more feminine skills of them. They have to reach deep and realize they were also gatherers, interactors and yes even nesters. They need to see this as a strength and quit poking each other in the eye for having skills. Just like women can hunt and protect men can have a full range of skills.
The sooner we all accept this of both sexes and see it as a bounus and not a negative then so many people will be so much more happy in applying the skills in their lives that truely make them happy and also make them the perfect match for another human being who would find their skills a great compliment to their own.
Young men like grind get so confused that they bluster and puff up their chests about all the silly stuff and continuiously find themselves in the wilderness about what is truely going to make them happy. They spin their wheels in the trough of thinking that keeps them adolesants until they are thirty. Then they look arrround and realise their choices for a good partner are harder to come by.
Grind needs to chill and concern himself with how to be a better human being before he even thinks about trying to talk some girl into joining his journey.
