The 'natural' order of almost all species is a male hierarchy. History has shown, and female mindsets continue to show, that they almost always want a man that is bigger, stronger, smarter, more competent than they are. Almost all women look for men that make more income than they do, which in turn satisfies the female mindset of future security for them and their children. Non compliant women, therefore, cause stress and conflict in that relationship, which lessens or destroys a mans ability to provide that security. Anyone who wants a non compliant female is setting themselves up for failure.
There are gender roles, traditionally, and it is only the feminist point of view which has churned out the BS narrative of the owner/slave relationship.
If you prefer a woman who can 'stand on her own', then what are you really there for? Are you her protector and provider, or is she yours?