Hello evince,
I spent that entire year being insulted by every con every time I spoke to them
Funny. I talk to lots of conservatives who do not insult me. I make it public information that anyone who does goes on permanent Ignore. Seems to work quite well.
I have made plenty of friends in the process.
I let people know they can drop their guard with me. Everybody here knows I am not going to go after anybody personally. I simply give honest views from a well adjusted liberal who loves life.
I want to be well informed but I have to have a mechanism to avoid letting all the bad news get to me. This is it. The freedom to speak freely and get the views of others and their reasoning for that without devolving into pissing matches which accomplish nothing.
I don't know what happened for you when you went a year without insults but after I began poofing everybody who dissed me I noticed that my outlook improved greatly. I believe there is a phenomenon where these flame wars affect one's outlook and mood. You can never get the last word. It's a lot of stress and it never ends. Life is better without the stress.
I would recommend an experiment for anyone who is wondering about this effect. Try it yourself and see. Since it takes a while for your outlook and general mood to improve, I would say you need to do this for at least two months to get the fullest effect, but the results begin to become apparent after about 2 weeks. Here is the experiment: Place everybody who insults you on Ignore. Avoid the temptation to 'peek' and read what they are posting. That's tough at first but it can be done.
If you can do that for 2 months you will find that your stress levels are reduced and this place never makes you mad.
If you don't find the same result you are always free to unclick those people off Ignore and jump back into the post-from-the-hip thing with them.
You might find, as I did, that after that period of time you never want to go back. And your life will become more peaceful even as you remain well informed and aware.