I don't see her as a victim and I have never heard her describe herself that way. She moves on and has been very successful despite any roadblocks. Despite your stereotypes all minorities do not see themselves as victims.
Two things about these statement because I think they're you telling on yourself:
1. If you are telling yourself this, it is because you stood by and watched as your own wife was repeatedly and constantly (remember, you said she faces more discrimination than anyone) denigrated in front of you,
and you did nothing about it. Nothing. Well almost nothing...you watched. A+ husbanding, professor.
2. If your wife is telling you this, it is probably because she doesn’t want you to feel bad at passively standing by as she is denigrated, abused, and/or “facing discrimination” that you can’t or won’t defend her from. So she’s being victimized TWICE; once by an abuser, and then
again by you for having to accommodate the guilt you feel at doing nothing about what happens to her.
So she is denied whatever victimhood she is entitled to because you have a
big sad at failing to defend your wife from the supposed constant discrimination and denigration you say she faces. So you convince yourself that she is somehow OK with the
constant abuse that no one else understands, that it doesn't trouble her nor does it affect her, because the alternative is confronting the abuse together which is going to be...uncomfortable. She will have to edit herself so as not to provoke some kind of self-serving reaction out of you. This is what almost every minority goes through. Having to be mindful not only of themselves, but be delicate around you.
What you have shared with us is that your wife faces constant abuse, prejudice, and discrimination that you are powerless to defend against, so you get a big sad out of it. Wah. Frowny face Flash.
When someone shouts a slur at your wife, do you turn to your wife and say,
“well, I might not agree with what he said but it is his right to say it.” We know you don’t confront them. So what do you do? Do you just stand there? Do you turn your wife’s other cheek
for her? Does this happen whenever you leave the house? Don’t tell me you were exaggerating before.
This is the eternal problem of submitting personal anecdotes, given circumstances, unverifiable nonsense in a debate. It always unavoidably becomes personal.
