Hello anonymoose,
Golf course opens tomorrow.
Right on.
I used to love the game. I have been a golfer. Sometimes playing several times a week. I don't play any more due to physical limitations.
I have plenty of other pursuits which are just as rewarding as golf. One thing is bothersome. I never got a hole in one. I came so close so many times, even to the point of actually having the ball bounce off the pin and stay out. And I've been with others who got a hole in one. That is nice to see. Total excitement every time.
I was never a great golfer, never broke 90, but I immensely enjoyed the game after I began to understand how it messes with your head. Golf is like litmus paper. It is a mental test. If you are in a great mood and have your head right, you can do your best. If your head is troubled, it will creep into your game.
At first I had great aspirations. I was sure I could have been great. I still believe I could have if I had proper coaching and applied myself with a determination. But I didn't do that. I just kept playing.
Golf makes no sense to non players. You have play the game to appreciate it. Nobody is much good at first. It takes a lot of practice to get better. And when you finally get some success you think OK now I am going to be a better player. But that is when it really starts to work on you. Golf, like so many things, is not a matter of being more amazing as much as it is a matter of eliminating mistakes. Consistency is key. And that's what messes with your head. And you have to have your head right in order to focus on making a good shot.
So after you start to have some success, you go out and tee off on another game, full of that first tee excitement, and you're determined to have a good game. You string together some good shots, have a few good holes, and then you start thinking maybe this is the time. Maybe today will be your day to really do well. And then sooner or later you have a bad hole. And you start doing the math. And by some point you know this is not going to be your day. The great feeling you began the round with is vaporized. Another lousy day.
When I was younger I used to let it get to me. I would get pissed off. The game kicked my butt again. I was stubborn. I kept trying. It seemed I could not progress. I quit.
I stayed away for a long time. Swore off the game.
Then one day, out of the blue, a guy I knew from other things was looking for a partner and asked me out of the blue, not knowing if I was a golfer. I had been away from the game for years.
I had softened, and I was bored so I accepted, warning him that I was not a very good player and not to expect much. I went with a cavalier attitude, expecting the same old garbage game. I was totally not worried about messing up. I expected to.
And then a miraculous thing happened.
I actually played fairly well.
What was going on here?
I had not practiced for years, and here I was playing better than when I left the game.
That's when I realized how mental the game is.
The mechanics of it were built into my body. I had to just get my head right and stop doing math or worrying about it. Just focus on the shot.
I played for years and years after that. I froze that mental moment in my mind so I could recreate it at will. As soon as I stopped caring about how well I did I did my best.
I also realized that was a great lesson for life in general. Keep things in perspective and always retain the ability to stay in the moment. Great game. I am better for having been a golfer.
I hope you have a great game. Do not worry about how well you are playing. It is wonderful to just get out there, see the beautiful surroundings, smell the fresh cut grass, enjoy the experience. Each game is special. No two trips to the course are the same. Cherish what you have each day. Relish in the beauty of it, put everything else away out of your mind and focus on the shot.
As Chevy Chase said in 'Caddie Shack,' "Be the ball, Danny."