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That's a load off my mind Yurt. I thought you were complimenting my shoes.
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That's a load off my mind Yurt. I thought you were complimenting my shoes.
Seriously, you need "two sides" of rape presented to you? The rapist is the criminal, period.
The guy who robs the drunk male with 100 dollar bills hanging out of his pocket is the only criminal in that scenario. Same thing with rape.
I have often jested that the MSM fetishization of "both sides of the story" would eventually lead to a "Hitler; the other side of the story" report. But it hasn't. I guess we drew the line after rape. Not before rape. But after. Because you know, there's another side to that story.
I think if Tom and SD's posts had been posted by Dominator your reaction would be very different. Frankly, your reaction was very different. I think that when it comes to some issues, rape being one of the, it's good to respond to the point being made, not the poster making it. That is what I strive to do, and I will keep doing it. I don't care whose feathers get ruffled or how many weepy PM's Tom sends defending the animal things he says about rape. Frankly anyone who would leave a woman alone with that guy, needs a head check up.
Who decides what's more egregious? The most egregious thing I've read here is that it doesn't matter how many babies are martyred for the Second Amendment and that opinion didn't get anywhere near the anger this thread got. You made some pointed comments about people giving SD a pass for his opinion because he's black, maybe I was included in the people, but that was 100% unfair. I for one don't give anyone's comments a pass based on their race if I don't agree with them. And, I certainly don't understand why you think I have a strange way of looking at rape. I think and have always thought rape is a crime and nothing justifies it, not clothing, not drunkenness, not being out at night on the wrong side of town, not Andrea Dworkin, nothing. Do I think there's been a woman or two who falsely cried "rape", yes obviously, but not anywhere near the number of times real rape occurs. This isn't opinion, it's fact. But I still reserve all my animosity for real rape victims.
I feel your post is about the fact that I don't jump on Tom for his opinions. Both you and Tom know I don't agree with everything he says on this subject. When I read Tom's articles and cites I can't relate to them because it's not the experience here, at least where I live. It seems to me that British feminists are still fighting a battle that we in the US have already settled and relegated to the past.
Tom and I went back and forth on this just a few months ago when he posted about British girls binge drinking and acting like men, and these actions were given a special term which I can't remember now. In response I posted info showing that here both genders binge drink and act out, both genders are condemned for this behaviour, and women aren't singled out for special disdain like they are in the UK. I see a sexist cultural difference in the way binge drinking etc. is treated in the UK media v. the US media.
Finally you're going to have to give me an example of not jumping on liberal men, unless you're only talking about Tom. For the record I don't think Tom's liberal in the sense we use here.
I've tried to stay out of the animosity between you and Tom and I've said that privately to both of you. I don't like how either of you talk to and about each other. I don't like how he brings up crap and name-calling from the past to insult you, and I don't like how you call him a rapist and a misogynist. I don't know why you two can't just put each other on ignore and be done with it. I refuse to get drawn into taking sides here. I just walked away from a "cunt" battle with DY and USF and I'm deathly sick and tired of it all.
Furthermore, if Tom's sending any weepy PMs they're not to me because he and I haven't communicated privately for months.
Major logical fallacy here Tom. By proxy, and according to your reference if I was to get wasted and someone was to beat the hell out of me and rob me then it's my fault cause I'm drunk? That's a masked man fallacy. In the actions listed by the author while drunk all the action, except the sexual assault, all were criminal acts for which a person should rightfully be prosecuted but in the case of an incapacitated woman being raped, she is the victim of a crime and not the perpetrator. The authors argument completely falls apart on that point.
I know I'm a fucking idiot that couldn't start a fire, if I had matches, tinder, wood, and instructions with pictures.
Women have a right to be in public with attractive clothing on, you do not have a right to wave a loaded gun at a police officer.
This is not to be an answer to rape but to determine whether or not there is some partial responsibility. I live in Los Angeles where it is known as the epicenter and originator of Bloods and Crips. If I know that these particular gangs operate based on colors and MLB hat logos yet I continue to wear opposing colors (along with the signature hats) and I'm accosted, who is responsible?
You don't like that I call him a misogynist? Frankly if you can read his posts and think he's NOT a misogynist, you have blinders on.
False equivalence.
I apologized because what I said was offensive. If I felt it wasn't I wouldn't have.
Apology accepted, thank you for offering one, it's rare for someone to be classy enough to do that on the internet.
Who decides what's more egregious? The most egregious thing I've read here is that it doesn't matter how many babies are martyred for the Second Amendment and that opinion didn't get anywhere near the anger this thread got. You made some pointed comments about people giving SD a pass for his opinion because he's black, maybe I was included in the people, but that was 100% unfair. I for one don't give anyone's comments a pass based on their race if I don't agree with them. And, I certainly don't understand why you think I have a strange way of looking at rape. I think and have always thought rape is a crime and nothing justifies it, not clothing, not drunkenness, not being out at night on the wrong side of town, not Andrea Dworkin, nothing. Do I think there's been a woman or two who falsely cried "rape", yes obviously, but not anywhere near the number of times real rape occurs. This isn't opinion, it's fact. But I still reserve all my animosity for real rape victims.
I feel your post is about the fact that I don't jump on Tom for his opinions. Both you and Tom know I don't agree with everything he says on this subject. When I read Tom's articles and cites I can't relate to them because it's not the experience here, at least where I live. It seems to me that British feminists are still fighting a battle that we in the US have already settled and relegated to the past.
Tom and I went back and forth on this just a few months ago when he posted about British girls binge drinking and acting like men, and these actions were given a special term which I can't remember now. In response I posted info showing that here both genders binge drink and act out, both genders are condemned for this behaviour, and women aren't singled out for special disdain like they are in the UK. I see a sexist cultural difference in the way binge drinking etc. is treated in the UK media v. the US media.
Finally you're going to have to give me an example of not jumping on liberal men, unless you're only talking about Tom. For the record I don't think Tom's liberal in the sense we use here.
Before it gets locked I wanted you to know I don't have a problem with the thread. I looked at it as a survey of attitudes where people got a chance to speak about their thoughts of rape, why it occurs, what contributes to it, etc., sorta like the JPP version of a CDC poll. I've said this about other hot button issues, that I'd rather see people show themselves because it spares me the effort of trying to figure out where they're really coming from. I also don't think you're a rape apologist for taking the position of devil's advocate. What would be the point of debate and discussion if only one side was presented? I'm just sorry your thread deteriorated the way it did because I know your intentions were good when you started it.
I couldn't possibly disagree with you anymore than I do. I also think you have a very strange way of looking at rape and how men speak about it. For the life of me I can't figure out why you jump on every righty who says things far less egregious than some liberal men do while giving them a pass. I want to be clear about that, since I feel your post is about my reaction. Which. I. Stand. By.
Well if you want me to choose which is the worse term it would be "rapist." Because I don't see any evidence of that from the posts.
Well if you want me to choose which is the worse term it would be "rapist." Because I don't see any evidence of that from the posts.
I disagree...his frantic apologizing for literally any rapist (even Polanski! the rapist of a 13 yo whom he drugged first) tells the story. IMO men who would never rape simply don't say those kind of things. There's a reason Tom is I believe the only man on this board who defends Polanski. And every other rapist ever mentioned.
A difference of opinion there, and one I'm aware of from previous things you've said. It hasn't changed my mind any more than I expect to change yours. Nor am I eager to have a protracted argument. But I feel this is something that needed to be cleared up. Because this bs has been driving me crazy, and yeah, I've been making pointed remarks. I've long believed one lousy word from you about the absolutely mind-boggling shit Tom posts about rape and rape victims, might shut him up for once. I guess I will never understand why you just won't do it. I've had guys like Grind say they cant freaking believe what Tom posted about rape. And I know you've seen and ignored and responded around rather than to, those same comments. I just can't get my mind around it. If you want to instead be upset about my calling him a rapist, that's okay Christie, like I said I don't want a big fight. But to my mind, that's fucked up. And it always be.
And if it posts like a rapist, if it talks like a rapist, it will always be a rapist to me. Why take any chances. If someone talked about cutting someone all the time, and about how people who get cut in alleys whine too much and probably enjoyed it and wanted it, I doubt you'd want to be alone with them and a knife. I'd have to agree.
I disagree...his frantic apologizing for literally any rapist (even Polanski! the rapist of a 13 yo whom he drugged first) tells the story. IMO men who would never rape simply don't say those kind of things. There's a reason Tom is I believe the only man on this board who defends Polanski. And every other rapist ever mentioned.
A difference of opinion there, and one I'm aware of from previous things you've said. It hasn't changed my mind any more than I expect to change yours. Nor am I eager to have a protracted argument. But I feel this is something that needed to be cleared up. Because this bs has been driving me crazy, and yeah, I've been making pointed remarks. I've long believed one lousy word from you about the absolutely mind-boggling shit Tom posts about rape and rape victims, might shut him up for once. I guess I will never understand why you just won't do it. I've had guys like Grind say they cant freaking believe what Tom posted about rape. And I know you've seen and ignored and responded around rather than to, those same comments. I just can't get my mind around it. If you want to instead be upset about my calling him a rapist, that's okay Christie, like I said I don't want a big fight. But to my mind, that's fucked up. And it always be.
And if it posts like a rapist, if it talks like a rapist, it will always be a rapist to me. Why take any chances. If someone talked about cutting someone all the time, and about how people who get cut in alleys whine too much and probably enjoyed it and wanted it, I doubt you'd want to be alone with them and a knife. I'd have to agree.
Why shouldn't I defend Roman Polanski? I have never said that what he did was anything other than wrong but excuse me for having the temerity to point out that he was offered a deal and the prosecutor reneged on it. I don't blame him for running as he was potentially looking at decades in prison. I also pointed out that Samantha Geimer, in response to someone that tried to portray her as totally innocent sexually, that she had already had sex at the age of twelve. I never said that she deserved to be raped, that is something that you and that cunt you call a friend conjured up. I would like to know why you've never asked why a thirteen year old is allowed to go to someone's Hollywood mansion unchaperoned, so where was her mother? I suppose the feminist diktat that a woman can do as she please also applies here also, as least as far as you are concerned.
As for Grind, fuck him is what I say, he lost all credibility with his remarks about babies being shot in their thousands so that he could protect his right to pack some heat and his adopting the name of Adam Lanza just because he thought it was fun. So excuse me if I say to you, fuck you thricely.
I have zero respect for Polanski because he's a pedophile who got away with it. In my book he's no different from the priest, teachers, Scout leaders or any molester who got a slap on the wrist. He drugged Geimer with Quaaludes and got her drunk in order to make her compliant. As far as her having sex at age 12, her brain wasn't developed and she didn't have the physical and mental maturity to know what she was doing was wrong. Seems she grew up in a sexually-free household and her mother should have been tossed in prison with the key thrown away. And if the person she had sex with was an adult, it was another pedophile act and another crime.
I do agree with you on the shooting babies thing, I couldn't believe it when I first read it and even now I wonder if he wasn't just taking the piss.
If Tom respects women, why does he continue to use the word cunt to insult? This shows a very distinct lack of respect, and although he doesn't respect Darla, he should respect christiefan and other women on this forum and stop the use of the word, but he doesn't care, because he doesn't respect.