Must disagree. You are focusing on the "shocking" part but missing the point. The FACT of the matter is we already DO police language and people can be FIRED for using the wrong word.
If you're seriously trying to equate referring to someone who was born male with masculine pronouns or vice versa, to saying "Hey ni**er" to a black guy or "Hey sp*c" to a Hispanic guy, then you have flushed your credibility on his issue down the toilet and have sunk to Trumper level rationalizing.
Again, I'm not a fan of policing speech to the extent that an ACCIDENTAL misuse of a pronoun would result in a firing but it doesn't really apply to this scenario.
We're not talking about punishing people for accidentally using non-preferred pronouns on occasion.
We're talking about FORCING everyone on a regular, daily basis as a matter of policy, to call a biological male/female "she/her"/"he/him" for no other reason than that they insist on it.
This is something that is so ripe for abuse by people looking to game the system or grab attention etc, anyone who's ever worked in the real world should see the potential problems it could cause.
Well, that's another topic altogether. Personally my assumption is that people who are TRULY gender dysphoric are rare but still in need of respect. There's a lot of "faddishness" to this current state we are in where everyone lets their freak flag fly in whatever way they want. It will pass and the nation will survive. In the meantime it really isn't all that much of an imposition for someone to be mindful of the proper pronoun.
Yes it is to those of us who live in the realm of reality. It makes us normally intelligent people feel like pandering idiots playing children's games.
BTW, referring to HIM as HER is not "being mindful of the proper pronoun".
The PROPER pronoun is HIM.
Period.
You are free to be as nasty and repellent a human being as you like. There is no law against being mean to everyone around you. But in case you don't carry a grudge against everyone you meet, this is a reasonable ask as it doesn't cost anything to be nice.
I am very nice, but my niceness is genuine as opposed to the fake, pretend niceness of those who condone this nonsense.
Such fake niceness is really nothing more than being enablers of the silliness and attention seeking these kinds of people engage in.
For example I'm being nice enough right now to not suggest that you're a "nasty and repellent human being".
Or any of a few other choice phrases I could think of.