And the level of the "mix" is where we fundamentally disagree, where all parties disagree, it is what separates us.
I think your subjective list of the "standard of living" is flawed and does not account for the culture and different drive levels especially prevalent in the US culture. When they get those things that create that "standard" Americans are driven to reach even higher because of incentives that come from sources other than government. Often in "happiness" polls America scores lower because of this drive that is a value in our culture not accounted for in those polls and surveys. Driven to reach ever higher is a very good thing.
Its not my list of standard of living, and sure it could be flawed. I dont know the factors they used. I know when I visited Sweeden, and I saw a lot of the country... I saw very few slums, poor areas, or unfortunant people living in the streets. I saw a huge middle class. I stayed with a family who lived on the water in a nice home, not a mansion like all the water homes are here.