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It is my experience that women, even when younger, use a "circumspect" way (ie: indirectly, using clues, hints and other non-direct methods) of requesting what they desire. Now perhaps that is because their desires are more likely to be abstract, based on emotional want, and are more often not satisfied with something concrete. But regardless of why, women do not state their desires and needs in a direct manner. It seems to be almost a constant test of their male partners and/or spouse to see how well the partner/spouse knows them.
The desires of men may often stem from the same emotional needs that women have, but they are expressed very differently. Though there has been a trend for change in recent years, men are still taught to not express their emotions openly. But if a want/need can be expressed without referring to an emotion, you can bet it will be stated openly. For instance, if a man wants a new truck (which he is never going to admit even to himself stems from a feeling of inadequacy), he is going to say he wants a new truck. And if the desire IS based on a self-recognized emotional need, then men will find a way of asking for that need without the emotion. For instance, if he wants some physical, non-sexual contact (rare, but does happen), he'll ask to have his back scratched or something similar that requires attention and touch from his female partner.
This is true until a man is married, and learns expressing such base wants directly is more likely to get him a withering look of disgust from his wife, or even land him on the couch for the night than get him what he wants. In which case he learns to approach those wants more, shall we say, "circumspectly". But they STILL won't admit to, or even indirectly refer to the emotional need that prompts the desire.
The desires of men may often stem from the same emotional needs that women have, but they are expressed very differently. Though there has been a trend for change in recent years, men are still taught to not express their emotions openly. But if a want/need can be expressed without referring to an emotion, you can bet it will be stated openly. For instance, if a man wants a new truck (which he is never going to admit even to himself stems from a feeling of inadequacy), he is going to say he wants a new truck. And if the desire IS based on a self-recognized emotional need, then men will find a way of asking for that need without the emotion. For instance, if he wants some physical, non-sexual contact (rare, but does happen), he'll ask to have his back scratched or something similar that requires attention and touch from his female partner.
This is true until a man is married, and learns expressing such base wants directly is more likely to get him a withering look of disgust from his wife, or even land him on the couch for the night than get him what he wants. In which case he learns to approach those wants more, shall we say, "circumspectly". But they STILL won't admit to, or even indirectly refer to the emotional need that prompts the desire.
