When and where is the State forcing gender rules
Take a look at any of the dozens of anti-trans bills that have just been passed and signed into law the last couple months, including this one that lets adults go into kids' bathrooms to police their genitalia:
Tennessee Governor Signs Two New Anti-Trans 'Bathroom Bills' Into Law
https://time.com/6049595/tennessee-anti-trans-bathroom-bill/
Besides, aren't you among those that believes we have not rights except what the State gives us?
Nice try with the baiting there, but you cannot capture the nuance of my position using exclusively sophistry.